Re: Vrijeme u kojem živimo- KALI YUGE

[Gnječ i tvornica čokolade]

da ovo iznad nije fake news evo i dokaza ispod link. nažalost nemogu skinuti cijeli dokument jer se na neki meni nepoznati način moram registrirati u kinesku banku podataka na kineskom mandarinskom pismu a ja mandarinski nemam pojma a ni kinesku tipkovnicu nemam.

ali ovo je dostupno:

未知病毒引起重症肺炎6例分析

The Analysis of6Patients with Severe Pneumonia Caused by Unknown Viruses

【Author in Chinese】 李旭；

【Supervisor】 钱传云；

【Author's Information】 昆明医科大学， 急诊医学（专业学位）， 2013， 硕士

【Abstract in Chinese】 2012年4月、5月,我院先后收住6例未知病毒引起相关重症肺炎患者。此6位患者均为同一矿洞工人,工作环境中接触大量蝙蝠及蝙蝠粪便。最终结局3位患者死亡,3位患者存活。据中国科学院昆明动物研究所鉴定,此6位患者工作矿洞内蝙蝠正为中华菊头蝠,然而我国科学家在寻找SARS病原的过程中,在中华菊头蝠体内提取出了SARS样冠状病毒(SARS-like-CoV)。本文针对6例患者所感染未知病毒相关重症肺炎的诊治过程及可能引起的病因、病原学进行推断与分析。

【Abstract】 There were6patients with severe pneumonia caused by unknown viruses sent to Dep. Emergency, the first affiliated hospital of Kunming medical university in April,May,2012.They were all workers at the same mine where had a lot of bats and bats’feces. After the treatment,3patients died and3patients survived.According to the appraisal of the Kunming institute of zoology, Chinese academy of sciences, the type of the bat in mine where6patients worked is Rhinolophus sinicus, from which was extracted SARS-like-CoV when Scientists in China were in the process of looking for SARS pathogen. The article aims at making an inference and analysis on the diagnosis and treatment process and the may causes, etiology of6patients with severe pneumonia related to infection by the unknown viruses.

http://eng.oversea.cnki.net/Kcms/detail/detail.aspx?filename=1013327523.nh&dbcode=CMFD&dbname=CMFD2014

[*madonna*]

bakul je žohar isto kao i buba-švaba. to su nazivi za istog kukca. ono što se sklupča u lopticu nije buba-švaba nego se zove porcellino neznam kako to Ukrasne figurice zovu ja ga zovem praščić. i taj sklupčani praščić ne spada u porodicu kukaca nego u porodicu rakova, to je jedini rak koji živi na kopnu dok svi ostali rakovi žive u vodi morskoj ili slatkoj. taj praščić ti je isto što i jastog, kozica, rakovica i ostali rakovi. ima još jedna vrsta jako slična po izgledu ali to je centipede stonoga ona sa oklopom pa se isto sklupča kad osjeti opasnost. tih stonoga ima dužih i kraćih ova kraća je izgledom ista kao račić-praščić tj. porcellio scaber, Armadillidium vulgare .

https://it.qwe.wiki/wiki/Porcellio_scaber

a ovaj sličan ovom račiću samo je millepiedi Glomeris marginata


https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Glomeris_marginata


a buba švaba tj. žohar je dobio ime ovako:

Riječ buba-švaba sigurno nije niti "najknjiževnija" riječ niti ćete je upotrijebiti u stručnom članku (osim možda u jezičnom), pa ipak, skoro svi na prostoru bivše Jugoslavije dobro znamo na što se misli kada se kaže buba-švaba.
Ali zašto?
Latinski naziv za vrstu žohara najčešću na ovim prostorima je "Blattella germanica", pri čemu je germanica - pridjev "njemačka", jer se krivo mislilo da vrsta potječe iz Njemačke. Englezi tu konkretnu vrstu zovu "njemački žohari", a u Njemačkoj ih zovu ruski žohari.
No da ne skrenemo previše s teme, Švapska (Schwaben) je pokrajina u Njemačkoj koju dijele Bavarska i Baden-Württemberg, a Švabe su bili Nijemci koji su se selili širom središnje i istočne Europe, te su tako ne samo kod nas nego u drugim krajevima uz Dunav postali sinonimom za Nijemce još prije vremena ujedinjenja, odn. prije nego što smo počeli sve Nijemce zvati - Nijemcima.

Me vegnera' un colpo 
Ti ga fatto doktorirat anche sulle bubasvabe 

Mi mo tu u rijeci, jos kao klinka se sjecam, te bube sto se sklupcaju zvali bubasvabe. Sad, je li to ispravno, ne znam. A one male crvene kukce, malo plosnate, sto secu po podu, zvali smo postari.

A jesu li ti " postari" na svakom krilcu imali jednu debelu crnu tocku?


Inace one kukce-kuglice bas nisam vidjela jako dugo. Mi ih nismo zvali buba-svabe (barem mislim da nismo), one velike crne zohare zovemo "bakul", a oni mali odvratni, smedji sto ih bude na desetine i s kojima zna biti ozbiljnih problema, ako se jednom uvuku u stanove - njih jednostavno zovemo " zohari '.

Da Tomica, to je postar. Jeste i vi njih tako zvali?? 

[Tomica]

bakul je žohar isto kao i buba-švaba. to su nazivi za istog kukca. ono što se sklupča u lopticu nije buba-švaba nego se zove porcellino neznam kako to Ukrasne figurice zovu ja ga zovem praščić. i taj sklupčani praščić ne spada u porodicu kukaca nego u porodicu rakova, to je jedini rak koji živi na kopnu dok svi ostali rakovi žive u vodi morskoj ili slatkoj. taj praščić ti je isto što i jastog, kozica, rakovica i ostali rakovi. ima još jedna vrsta jako slična po izgledu ali to je centipede stonoga ona sa oklopom pa se isto sklupča kad osjeti opasnost. tih stonoga ima dužih i kraćih ova kraća je izgledom ista kao račić-praščić tj. porcellio scaber, Armadillidium vulgare .

https://it.qwe.wiki/wiki/Porcellio_scaber

a ovaj sličan ovom račiću samo je millepiedi Glomeris marginata


https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Glomeris_marginata


a buba švaba tj. žohar je dobio ime ovako:

Riječ buba-švaba sigurno nije niti "najknjiževnija" riječ niti ćete je upotrijebiti u stručnom članku (osim možda u jezičnom), pa ipak, skoro svi na prostoru bivše Jugoslavije dobro znamo na što se misli kada se kaže buba-švaba.
Ali zašto?
Latinski naziv za vrstu žohara najčešću na ovim prostorima je "Blattella germanica", pri čemu je germanica - pridjev "njemačka", jer se krivo mislilo da vrsta potječe iz Njemačke. Englezi tu konkretnu vrstu zovu "njemački žohari", a u Njemačkoj ih zovu ruski žohari.
No da ne skrenemo previše s teme, Švapska (Schwaben) je pokrajina u Njemačkoj koju dijele Bavarska i Baden-Württemberg, a Švabe su bili Nijemci koji su se selili širom središnje i istočne Europe, te su tako ne samo kod nas nego u drugim krajevima uz Dunav postali sinonimom za Nijemce još prije vremena ujedinjenja, odn. prije nego što smo počeli sve Nijemce zvati - Nijemcima.

Me vegnera' un colpo 
Ti ga fatto doktorirat anche sulle bubasvabe 

Mi mo tu u rijeci, jos kao klinka se sjecam, te bube sto se sklupcaju zvali bubasvabe. Sad, je li to ispravno, ne znam. A one male crvene kukce, malo plosnate, sto secu po podu, zvali smo postari.

A jesu li ti " postari" na svakom krilcu imali jednu debelu crnu tocku?


Inace one kukce-kuglice bas nisam vidjela jako dugo. Mi ih nismo zvali buba-svabe (barem mislim da nismo), one velike crne zohare zovemo "bakul", a oni mali odvratni, smedji sto ih bude na desetine i s kojima zna biti ozbiljnih problema, ako se jednom uvuku u stanove - njih jednostavno zovemo " zohari '.

Da Tomica, to je postar. Jeste i vi njih tako zvali?? 

Gnjec odmah pronadje sve sto treba...

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Jesmo, Lasto! Postari. Iako ne znam nista o prici koja stoji iza takvog naziva.. Ali prekrasne su. Pogledaj te iscrtane geometrijske sare na ledjima, kao neki tribal tattoo. I gdje su? Nema ih jako dugo, cini mi se da ih nisam vidjela desetljecima. Mozda su se i one povukle iz gradova kao i krijesnice.

Nije bas bilo ni bubamara, ali ove godine nailazim na njih. Onako su tamnije zute boje

[Tomica]

Evo, pronasla sam nesto!

Vatreni opančar (vatrena stjenica, lat. Pyrrhocoris apterus), kukac raznokrilac iz porodice vatrenih stjenica (Pyrrhocoridae),crvena tijela s crnim pjegama. Dug je oko 10 mm. Čest u parkovima uz brijestove i lipe. Hrani se trulim lišćem, plodovima, uginulim kukcima. Jaja polaže u tlo. Nastanjuje cijelu Europu.[1]

https://hr.wikipedia.org/wiki/Vatreni_opan%C4%8Dar


Da "opancar"!

Bolje je nase "postar"....

[Gnječ i tvornica čokolade]

Evo, pronasla sam nesto!

Vatreni opančar (vatrena stjenica, lat. Pyrrhocoris apterus), kukac raznokrilac iz porodice vatrenih stjenica (Pyrrhocoridae),crvena tijela s crnim pjegama. Dug je oko 10 mm. Čest u parkovima uz brijestove i lipe. Hrani se trulim lišćem, plodovima, uginulim kukcima. Jaja polaže u tlo. Nastanjuje cijelu Europu.[1]

https://hr.wikipedia.org/wiki/Vatreni_opan%C4%8Dar


Da "opancar"!  

Bolje je nase "postar"....

balkanci su poznati po ne inventivnosti. dati bubi ime opančar može samo neki balkanski krkan opančar što bi bilo papučar, jer kako se te bube seksaju budu zaljepljene skupa dosta vremena pa se neki balkanski krkan dosjetio da tu mušku bubu ženska buba voza oko malog prsta pa mu balkanski krkan dao ime opančar tj. papučar.

jebeni jugo-slaveni. buba-švaba, visi-baba da ne nabrajam dalje...

poštar je već ok. i mi ga zovemo poštar.

[besposlenpop]

...

poštar je već ok. i mi ga zovemo poštar.

Jaga ne zovem. Sam dođe. S računima ...

[Tomica]

Evo, pronasla sam nesto!

Vatreni opančar (vatrena stjenica, lat. Pyrrhocoris apterus), kukac raznokrilac iz porodice vatrenih stjenica (Pyrrhocoridae),crvena tijela s crnim pjegama. Dug je oko 10 mm. Čest u parkovima uz brijestove i lipe. Hrani se trulim lišćem, plodovima, uginulim kukcima. Jaja polaže u tlo. Nastanjuje cijelu Europu.[1]

https://hr.wikipedia.org/wiki/Vatreni_opan%C4%8Dar


Da "opancar"!  

Bolje je nase "postar"....

balkanci su poznati po ne inventivnosti. dati bubi ime opančar može samo neki balkanski krkan opančar što bi bilo papučar, jer kako se te bube seksaju budu zaljepljene skupa dosta vremena pa se neki balkanski krkan dosjetio da tu mušku bubu ženska buba voza oko malog prsta pa mu balkanski krkan dao ime opančar tj. papučar.

jebeni jugo-slaveni. buba-švaba, visi-baba da ne nabrajam dalje...

poštar je već ok. i mi ga zovemo poštar.

A zasto ga zovemo "postar'? Postoji li nekakvo vjerovanje po kojem, kad ga ugledamo, stizu vijesti ili tome slicno?


Pomislila sam da ga zovu "opancar" jer, stajaznam, ima oblik opanka? : )) Inace, opancar je majstor koji izradjuje opanke.


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Vezano uz visibabu, vecina tih imena biljaka vezuje se uz neko narodno vjerovanje koje seze do vjerovanja starih Slavena. Mislim da se ovaj lijepi cvijet grdog imena vezuje uz Babu Jagu koju jos nazivaju i Baba Zima.

Naisla sam i na ovo:


Visibaba (grč. Galanthus lat. nivalis) – pahulja koja ne kopni

Kada krenu prvi znakovi toplijeg vremena tada se pojavljuju visibabe. Pognuta glavica kao u starih baka ''kriva'' je za takav naziv u našem narodu. Zbog svoje simbolike ovu proljetnicu zovu i cvijetom pročišćenja ili Candlemas Bells (zvončići Svijećnice) zbog toga što raste u Veljači - kada se prema katoličkom kalendaru slavi Svijećnica – blagdan pročišćenja. Za ovu svetkovinu je izabran zbog svoje snježno bijele boje koja simbolizira Marijinu čistoću, a glavica koja visi iznad tla predstavlja poniznost i predanost Bogu.

Originalni naziv Galanthus nivalis – mliječno cvijeće - dolazi od grčkih riječi gala I anthos što znače mlijeko I cvijet, a latinski pridjev nivalis znači bijel kao snijeg. Ne smije s brati u većim količinama, ali nije li bolje da krasi livade nego nečije dnevne boravke?

[Gnječ i tvornica čokolade]

Evo, pronasla sam nesto!

Vatreni opančar (vatrena stjenica, lat. Pyrrhocoris apterus), kukac raznokrilac iz porodice vatrenih stjenica (Pyrrhocoridae),crvena tijela s crnim pjegama. Dug je oko 10 mm. Čest u parkovima uz brijestove i lipe. Hrani se trulim lišćem, plodovima, uginulim kukcima. Jaja polaže u tlo. Nastanjuje cijelu Europu.[1]

https://hr.wikipedia.org/wiki/Vatreni_opan%C4%8Dar


Da "opancar"!  

Bolje je nase "postar"....

balkanci su poznati po ne inventivnosti. dati bubi ime opančar može samo neki balkanski krkan opančar što bi bilo papučar, jer kako se te bube seksaju budu zaljepljene skupa dosta vremena pa se neki balkanski krkan dosjetio da tu mušku bubu ženska buba voza oko malog prsta pa mu balkanski krkan dao ime opančar tj. papučar.

jebeni jugo-slaveni. buba-švaba, visi-baba da ne nabrajam dalje...

poštar je već ok. i mi ga zovemo poštar.

A zasto ga zovemo "postar'? Postoji li nekakvo vjerovanje po kojem, kad ga ugledamo, stizu vijesti ili tome slicno?


Pomislila sam da ga zovu "opancar" jer, stajaznam, ima oblik opanka? : )) Inace, opancar je majstor koji izradjuje opanke.


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Vezano uz visibabu, vecina tih imena biljaka vezuje se uz neko narodno vjerovanje koje seze do vjerovanja starih Slavena. Mislim da se ovaj lijepi cvijet grdog imena vezuje uz Babu Jagu koju jos nazivaju i Baba Zima.

Naisla sam i na ovo:


Visibaba (grč. Galanthus lat. nivalis) – pahulja koja ne kopni

Kada krenu prvi znakovi toplijeg vremena tada se pojavljuju visibabe. Pognuta glavica kao u starih baka ''kriva'' je za takav naziv u našem narodu. Zbog svoje simbolike ovu proljetnicu zovu i cvijetom pročišćenja ili Candlemas Bells (zvončići Svijećnice) zbog toga što raste u Veljači - kada se prema katoličkom kalendaru slavi Svijećnica – blagdan pročišćenja. Za ovu svetkovinu je izabran zbog svoje snježno bijele boje koja simbolizira Marijinu čistoću, a glavica koja visi iznad tla predstavlja poniznost i predanost Bogu.

Originalni naziv Galanthus nivalis – mliječno cvijeće - dolazi od grčkih riječi gala I anthos što znače mlijeko I cvijet, a latinski pridjev nivalis znači bijel kao snijeg. Ne smije s brati u većim količinama, ali nije li bolje da krasi livade nego nečije dnevne boravke?

protestiram! pokrenut ću peticiju da se promijeni ime tog lijepog cvijeta! da baba. imenica baba ima pejorativno značenje. primjeri: de ba ušuti. ili ajd baba umukni više. ili vidi onu babu što me satrala u pizdumaterinu. ili baba metilda. baba bi značilo stará al protivná žena što bi u prijevodu značilo old and annoying woman . recimo u drugim jezicima je ime ok. bucaneve tal. , snowdrop eng. , galanto o campanilla de invierno španjolski, schneeglöckchen njem. , Подснежник белоснежный rus. u prijevodu Snowdrop snow white itd...da ne nabrajam svi imaju lijepa imena za cvijeće osim ovih debila balkanjerosa.

da visi-baba. visi moj quraz prije. a da stvar bude još paradoksalnija, iz lukovice visibabe izdvojen je alkaloid galantamin koji usporava alzheimerovu bolest i staračku demenciju. znači totalno fulano ime.

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za opančara idem. mislim, pa odakle stižu takvi nazivi? iz neke osmanlijske kasabe?

nono i nona su govorili da ako vide tog kukca da će dobiti poštu. zato su ga zvali poštar. e sad da li su dobivali poštu i da li je stizao poštar nakon takvih viđenja kukca nisam pratio. ali ostalo je ime poštar.

[Tomica]

Da, svi su nazivi daleko ljepsi od "visibabe" ali, velim, mozda je prica iza takvog imena prepuna neobicnih obrata.


Sto se postara-opancara tice, ne kaze li se i za nocnog leptira da nosi vijesti izdaleka?

[Gnječ i tvornica čokolade]

Da, svi su nazivi daleko ljepsi od "visibabe" ali, velim, mozda je prica iza takvog imena prepuna neobicnih obrata.  


Sto se postara-opancara tice, ne kaze li se i za nocnog leptira da nosi vijesti izdaleka?

čini mi se da da. doduše postoji i vrsta leptira koji se zove poštar.

[Gnječ i tvornica čokolade]

e sad malo o štetnosti duhana. well, duhan i nije baš toliko štetan kako nas stručnjaci i razni lobiji uvjeravaju. normalno ako se koristi u razumnim količinama. tako da su upravo sada stručnjaci konsternirani jednim novim otkrićem pa će na pakiranja cigareta morati staviti i oznaku "duhan vas štiti od covid-19". još će e na kraju duhan kupovati u apoteci na recept.

BREAKING NEWS! COVID-19 Research Shows That SARS-CoV-2 Spike Proteins Also Targets Nicotine Acetycholine Receptors In Human Host, Massive Alarming Implications!
Source: COVID-19 Research Jul 21, 2020 7 hours ago

A new study by researchers from University of Bristol-UK, University of California-San Diego and Oxford Brookes University has revealed that the spike proteins of the SARS-CoV-2 coronavirus has a high affinity for the nicotinic acetylcholine receptors (nAChRs) of human host with significant implications for pathology and infectivity of the COVID-19 disease.

The fact that this was overlooked from the beginning and that it took six months before this was discovered has huge implications on everything that the scientific community knows about the COVID-19 disease and the approaches towards trying to manage and treat it including drug and vaccine developments. The discovery is actually a major game changer that highlights the even growing complexity to manage and treat the COVID-19 disease and the way the SARS-CoV-2 disrupts numerous aspects of the human host body’s biological systems.

The research finds were just published on a preprint server and is currently being peer-reviewed.

https://www.biorxiv.org/content/10.1101/2020.07.16.206680v1

The researchers were intrigued by the seemingly low prevalence of smokers among hospitalized patients, and it was suggested that nicotine might provide some protection in mitigating COVID-19, which was dubbed the 'protection' hypothesis.

Based on the early observations where smoking prevalence in hospitalized COVID-19 patients was lower than expected, certain studies suggested a role for nAChRs in the pathophysiology of COVID-19 through a direct interaction between these receptors and the viral spike glycoprotein (S-protein).

This hypothesis was primarily based on the fact that the S-protein from SARS-CoV-2 harbors a sequence motif related to known nAChR antagonists and may interact with nAChRs. Consequently, such interactions may be then involved in pathology and infectivity, which is a notion known as 'nicotinic hypothesis.'

https://www.thailandmedical.news/news/breaking-news-covid-19-research-shows-that-sars-cov-2-spike-proteins-also-targets-nicotine-acetycholine-receptors-in-human-host,-massive-alarming-impl

[Gnječ i tvornica čokolade]

Why grooming is so hard to spot: The truth

Why grooming is so hard to spot: The truth

Dr Jessica Taylor

30 June 2020

Disclaimer: I give permission for this article to be used in training courses and education, as long as my name is clearly referenced as the author. This article contains important information that can be used to influence practice, so please do use it where you can.

Content Warning: Contains discussion of grooming techniques and tactics

Over the past 10 years or so, there has been increasing interest in teaching children and women to ‘spot the signs’ of grooming. This article will explain why this approach doesn’t work, and why grooming should be reframed as a common, normal human behaviour that we all engage in.

I know, sounds horrible doesn’t it?

But if you take the time to read this article, you will see grooming in a completely different way, not only in your own life but in the lives of others you care about or work with.

My key points will be:

1. We have defined ‘grooming’ to be too narrow

2. Grooming happens constantly, to all of us, and by all of us

3. Professionals are expert groomers

4. Victims of abuse need to know that grooming is common and constant

5. Grooming is hard to ‘spot’ because we are all socialised to accept grooming in everyday life – it is unfair to expect women and children to be able to do this

Okay. Let’s get into this.

1. We have defined ‘grooming’ to be too narrow
When I say ‘grooming’, I know what image that conjures up for most people. They think, sexual abuse. They think CSE. They think gangs of men abusing girls. They think of kids being groomed online. They think of women being manipulated into abuse.

When I say ‘grooming’, they think of a slow, careful, manipulative process in which a sex offender learns more and more about their victim, builds a relationship with them, asks them questions and then sexually abuses or attacks them.

The Oxford Dictionary defines grooming as ‘the action by a paedophile of preparing a child for a meeting, especially via an Internet chat room, with the intention of committing a sexual offence.’

The NSPCC defines it as, ‘when someone builds a relationship, trust and emotional connection with a child or young person so they can manipulate, exploit and abuse them. Children and young people who are groomed can be sexually abused, exploited or trafficked.’

The truth is, these narrow stereotypes of grooming are blinding us all from seeing the reality of how broad grooming really is.

Grooming is not specific to sexual offences at all. It’s not even specific to crime.

You can be groomed into a cult.

You can be groomed into terrorism.

You can be groomed into political ideology.

You can be groomed into domestic abuse.

You can be groomed into bullying culture.

You can be groomed into taking drugs or drinking.

You can be groomed into religion.

You can be groomed into changing your worldview or believing conspiracy theories.

You can be groomed into thinking you are mentally ill.

You can be groomed into eating disorders and body dysmorphia.

You can be groomed into hating yourself.

You can be groomed to be racist, homophobic, misogynistic or xenophobic.

As you can see, the process of grooming is about the manipulation, persuasion and control of humans. It is not specific to sexual offences at all.

By narrowly defining it, we have put our own blinkers on. We ignore the way grooming is utilised all around us. We then start to believe that grooming only happens to the most vulnerable, and that we can teach them how to spot the signs and how to stop it happening to them. But it rarely works.

2. Grooming happens constantly, to all of us, and by all of us
Some of you may be surprised to learn that you have been groomed. Statistically, many of us have been abused, so we will have been groomed by an abuser. However, the rest of us have been groomed in other ways that we have not noticed or understood.

Further, most of us have groomed another person into doing something we wanted them to do.

To understand why grooming is so hard to spot, you have to take a huge step back and look at grooming in society on a daily basis. As I go through this section, try to reframe your definition of grooming using my definition:

‘Something that someone does to someone else to convince, persuade, manipulate or control them into doing something that they want them to do (either positively or negatively).’

Grooming has been used to manipulate you every single day since you were born. You were groomed into behaving and thinking the way you do. Your social norms, beliefs, attitudes and world views were all given to you by adults with an agenda. Your parents, carers and families taught you their beliefs and behaviours. They taught you they were normal. Even if they weren’t.

Then you went to nursery or school, where the staff team groomed you into some very strange human behaviours such as going into a building where all children are dressed exactly the same way as you, sitting on the floor in silence, sitting with your legs crossed for no reason, putting your finger on your lips to show you are quiet, putting your hand up before speaking, responding to bells and buzzers to move or eat or take a break.

None of these are normal, natural human behaviours. We did not evolve to respond to bells or buzzers. We did not evolve to sit cross legged with 29 other kids dressed in the same clothes, with fingers on our lips, listening to one person explain punctuation marks. We do not actually have to raise our hand before we can physically speak. You don’t actually have to ask for permission to go to the toilet, you could have just stood up and walked out when they refused you permission to go to pee or change your sanitary pad. But you didn’t, did you?

None of these ‘rules’ are real.

They are norms, beliefs and behaviours that we are groomed to accept and take part in, using positive reinforcement and negative reinforcement.

You were groomed for your entire childhood, by everyone around you. No one escaped this process.

You are groomed into buying things you don’t even need by marketing, advertisements and product placement. You are groomed into wanting to look a certain way by fashion and pop culture. You are groomed into dieting at certain times of the year. You are groomed into buying certain stereotypical products at certain times of the year or for certain special days. You are groomed into believing that you can become rich and successful if you just ‘work harder’. You are groomed to believe that governments, authorities and big companies care about you and your family. You are groomed into upgrading your mobile phone when there is absolutely nothing wrong with it.

There is constant pressure to groom you in society – to market, to profit, to manipulate, to control, to silence, to persuade, to abuse you.

This is why you can’t spot the signs of grooming. Because it is happening to you 24/7. Because society is built on grooming and groomers.

Even you have groomed someone, at some point. If you have kids, you’ve definitely done a lot of grooming. If you are religious and encourage others to believe in your faith, you’ve groomed people. If you ever persuaded someone to do something you wanted them to do (positive or negative), you groomed them. If you have sold products to people that they didn’t really need, you groomed them. If you ever convinced someone to join a club, go to do something, change something about themselves or engage in something new, you groomed them to do so.

Grooming is a common human behaviour. It is not only sex offenders who can build a rapport, persuade, manipulate and coerce someone into doing something. Most of us are capable of it. Most of us do it every day.

If you’re in a long term relationship (or have been), consider what you did or what your partner did to ‘groom’ you.

Did they buy you gifts? Flatter you? Pay attention to you? Ask you questions about yourself? Tell you that you are special? Tell you that they would never want anyone else? Did they listen to you and centre you? Did they sacrifice things for you? Did they help you or were they there for you at times of trouble? Did they tell you they would never hurt you?

Yes, they did.

Did you do any of these things as part of your relationship building?

Yes. Of course you did.

You both successfully convinced another human that you are their best option as a partner, and that you are trustworthy, safe, loving and that the relationship is worth investing in, exclusively.

3. Professionals are expert groomers
It’s not just us who are capable of grooming and need to acknowledge what we do and why it’s so difficult to spot.

Professionals are expert groomers.

(Note: Whenever I say this in a speech or in training, professionals look with absolute horror and disgust at me. A couple have walked out. Some people sit with their arms crossed, glaring at me. This concept makes everyone uncomfortable. I’m aware of that. Keep reading.)

Social workers, police officers, counsellors, psychologists, care staff, teachers etc.

We are all expert groomers. We literally go to work to groom humans into doing things we want them to do. The social worker grooms families into doing something. The police officer grooms victims into doing something. The counsellor grooms their client into trusting them to disclose their worries. The care staff groom the child or adult into letting them bathe them, care for them and live with them.

Professionals are skilled manipulators. We call it ‘building rapport’. All professionals who I know, call it by that name.

They say ‘Well, we firstly focus on ‘building rapport because none of this works if you don’t have good rapport with the person.’

And I say, ‘How do you do that?’

They reply, ‘We build their trust in us. We ask them questions about themselves, find out about them. We tell them we are here to help them. We remind them that we care about them. We tell them they can trust us. We offer them help when they need it most. We build their self esteem by paying them compliments and using positive reinforcement. We take them places they like to go. We treat the kids to Macdonald’s…’

And at that point I say, ‘So, you groom them, then?’

To which I usually get either a nervous laugh or a look of utter horror.

I spend significant amounts of my time showing professionals and leaders that their ‘rapport building’ process is the same process that a perpetrator uses to abuse and groom victims. All of those things that professionals tell me they do to ‘build rapport’ are used to ‘groom’ victims into abuse, rape, trafficking, exploitation, extremism, bullying, racism, cults, belief systems. It’s all the same shit.

I’ve spoken to professionals who also accept that they manipulate families into doing things that they don’t want to do (for example, pressuring victims to engage in a criminal prosecution process or threatening action if a mum doesn’t report her husband for domestic abuse).

These are all forms of grooming.

Why is it important for professionals to acknowledge what they are doing?

Because we trigger our clients. We mirror the perps. We make our clients feel unsafe. We cause them to back away from us.

And then we flip it on them, and say ‘they are too hard to work with’ or ‘they won’t engage’ or ‘they won’t trust any of us’.

Sound familiar, fellow professionals?

Of course it does, this is par for the course. Professionals moaning that their ‘rapport building’ didn’t work, or that they have spent months ‘building rapport’ with a child or family and they still won’t disclose or report.

Like that’s a bad thing.

The truth is, lots of victims of grooming and abuse begin to feel unsafe when professionals use similar tactics to ‘build rapport’ with them. They trigger, they disengage, but they don’t know why.

They might say things like, ‘What’s in it for you? Why are you being so nice to me? Why do you keep pretending you care about us? What do you get out of this?’

This is actually massive progress for that person. They can feel you grooming them. They don’t like it. They are questioning your motives and agenda. They are wondering why you are putting so much effort into building rapport with them.

I teach professionals that you should start to see this as positive. This is a person beginning to process what grooming feels like – and beginning to critically analyse grooming behaviours. They don’t trust you, because you mirror the abuser. They haven’t figured that out yet, because grooming is so socially embedded and normalised, that they will rarely pinpoint exactly what is making them uncomfortable. But that’s what is happening there. The brain remembers the feeling. Remembers the betrayal and the manipulation.

Which brings me to my next point.

4. Victims of abuse need to know that grooming is common and constant
No matter who they are, or what age they are, people who have been subjected to any form of abuse or oppression – need to know what I’ve just taught you about grooming in society.

They need to know that they are subjected to grooming at all levels of society, at all times, by all people. They need to understand that grooming makes the world go round.

Why?

I have one main reason for arguing this point:

Because it reduces self-blame.

You see, we have created a disgusting narrative that victims of abuse ‘should have seen the signs’. We create national campaigns and we issue guidance about ‘how to spot the signs of grooming’. We do this, even to 5 year old kids.

We create ‘programmes of work’ with children, adolescents and adult victims about ‘keeping themselves safe by learning to spot the signs of grooming and exiting the abuse’.

What a load of shit.

How is this possible in a world in which grooming is a 24/7 experience?

It causes feelings of self blame, because in effect, we are blaming victims for not spotting the signs of grooming and not ‘protecting themselves’ from it.

Many victims of abuse question themselves and ask, ‘How didn’t I spot it? Why didn’t I know? How could I be so stupid?’

You’re not stupid, you’re normal.

Not even professionals can spot groomers. Not even the police. None of us can. We miss millions of them every year, even when the evidence is staring us in the face.

Professionals are no better at spotting the signs of grooming than the general public are, hence why professionals are just as likely to be in abusive relationships as anyone else. They are literally going to work, telling victims to ‘spot the signs’ and then going home to an abusive partner who subjects them to abuse every day and they can’t see it themselves. That’s normal.

We have professionals within our own teams who are abusing clients – and can we see it? Nope. When it comes out we all say, ‘Oh my word! What a shock. We would never have suspected them!’

Uhuh, so we can’t spot it, but we think 10 year old Kacy can, if she just does this worksheet and watches this video. Got it.

Further, even if you can see that you are being groomed, that doesn’t mean you have the power to escape, does it?

We have to have this conversation with everyone, because people need to know that it was never their fault that they couldn’t ‘spot the signs’ of grooming. No one can. It’s a myth.

5. Grooming is hard to ‘spot’ because we are all socialised to accept grooming in everyday life – it is unfair to expect children and women to be able to do this
My final point is about the huge injustice in expecting people (mainly women and children) to be able to spot the signs of grooming and then exit that process as if there is no power dynamic.

As this article has shown, grooming is embedded into the fabric of society. It’s not just common, it’s integral to several systems of control, marketing and authority.

We are all groomed to do things (things we might want, and things we might not want). We are groomed to do things that are not in our best interests. We are groomed to spend our money on things we don’t need. We are groomed into relationships. We are groomed into power structures. We are groomed into belief systems and world views. We are groomed into behaviours and norms that make no sense or have no purpose.

It is wholly unfair to expect anyone to be able to spot grooming for abuse, when it simply mirrors every other grooming process in the world.

We are placing standards on to people that we can’t even live up to. I can’t spot the signs of abusers in my life and I’ve been doing this for 11 years. Anyone who claims to be able to ‘spot an offender’ is a liar, and has a dangerous level of self-confidence.

Don’t get me wrong, I’ve have feelings about some perps and I turned out to be right, but there is no way it was anything more than chance. Statistically, we are all surrounded by abusers. We probably each know 10-20 abusers. You’ll probably never know who most of them are.

Every time I’ve got one right, I’ve probably missed others. That why I try to educate as many people as possible about the realities of grooming, and the myth that we can spot the signs.

And if we can’t spot the signs, why are we going into schools telling children to spot the signs? Why are we telling women and girls to spot the signs of a rapist or abuser? Why are we ‘teaching’ kids that that should have spotted the signs?

We should never expect victims of abuse and grooming to know what is happening to them, or expect them to be able to escape.

I believe that what I am saying about grooming should be taught and shared everywhere. We need to change the conversation about grooming – and look at it as a huge social behaviour that is exploited and used by many types of abusers and manipulators. Narrowly defining it as grooming kids online for sexual abuse is missing the point by a country mile. We can’t tackle something if we can’t even see the scale of it.

If you have any questions about this article, give me a shout.

Written by Dr Jessica Taylor

https://victimfocusblog.com/2020/06/30/dr-jessica-taylor-explains-the-real-reasons-why-you-cant-spot-grooming-behaviour/

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A propos zadnjega posta, n3 znam, ali mene najmanje jebe u cijeloj prici zasto nisam skuzila (a to je preduvjet da bi se poduhvat sprij3cio, j3l) da me vasc3la vas3ljena jebe... nekako mi je to najmanji problem.... odnosno, nije mi uopce problem... mislim, u konacnici, to je pr9blem vaseljene, ak m3 beres
AKo cemo o groomanju...
jer i sam si nav3o, svak ga moze popusit...
Nega se namece pitanje, ma ne namece se pitanje jer odgovora n3ma, bol3sti i bolesnih je uvijek bilo... uvijek ce neko n3koga vrebat i jebat... bojim se da rjesenja nema...

Ne mislim s ovim zadnjim zakljuckom na svoj slucaj jer moj sl7caj spada pod debilane, a ne groomanje, ali nazalost bojim se da se nikada nece naci rjesenja i prevenc8ja za bolesnike ovoga tipa...

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A propos zadnjega posta, n3 znam, ali mene najmanje jebe u cijeloj prici zasto nisam skuzila (a to je preduvjet da bi se poduhvat sprij3cio, j3l) da me vasc3la vas3ljena jebe... nekako mi je to najmanji problem.... odnosno, nije mi uopce problem... mislim, u konacnici, to je pr9blem vaseljene, ak m3 beres
AKo cemo o groomanju...
jer i sam si nav3o, svak ga moze popusit...
Nega se namece pitanje, ma ne namece se pitanje jer odgovora n3ma, bol3sti i bolesnih je uvijek bilo... uvijek ce neko n3koga vrebat i jebat... bojim se da rjesenja nema...

Ne mislim s ovim zadnjim zakljuckom na svoj slucaj jer moj sl7caj spada pod debilane, a ne groomanje, ali nazalost bojim se da se nikada nece naci rjesenja i prevenc8ja za bolesnike ovoga tipa...

ma da ali bitno je ovo:

4. Victims of abuse need to know that grooming is common and constant

They need to know that they are subjected to grooming at all levels of society, at all times, by all people. They need to understand that grooming makes the world go round.

Why?

I have one main reason for arguing this point:

Because it reduces self-blame.

You see, we have created a disgusting narrative that victims of abuse ‘should have seen the signs’. We create national campaigns and we issue guidance about ‘how to spot the signs of grooming’. We do this, even to 5 year old kids.

We create ‘programmes of work’ with children, adolescents and adult victims about ‘keeping themselves safe by learning to spot the signs of grooming and exiting the abuse’.

What a load of shit.

How is this possible in a world in which grooming is a 24/7 experience?

It causes feelings of self blame, because in effect, we are blaming victims for not spotting the signs of grooming and not ‘protecting themselves’ from it.

Many victims of abuse question themselves and ask, ‘How didn’t I spot it? Why didn’t I know? How could I be so stupid?’

You’re not stupid, you’re normal.

Not even professionals can spot groomers. Not even the police. None of us can. We miss millions of them every year, even when the evidence is staring us in the face.

Professionals are no better at spotting the signs of grooming than the general public are, hence why professionals are just as likely to be in abusive relationships as anyone else. They are literally going to work, telling victims to ‘spot the signs’ and then going home to an abusive partner who subjects them to abuse every day and they can’t see it themselves. That’s normal.

We have professionals within our own teams who are abusing clients – and can we see it? Nope. When it comes out we all say, ‘Oh my word! What a shock. We would never have suspected them!’

Uhuh, so we can’t spot it, but we think 10 year old Kacy can, if she just does this worksheet and watches this video. Got it.

Further, even if you can see that you are being groomed, that doesn’t mean you have the power to escape, does it?

We have to have this conversation with everyone, because people need to know that it was never their fault that they couldn’t ‘spot the signs’ of grooming. No one can. It’s a myth.

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Ne j3bote, nije... to smo zakljucili, svak ga moze primit i prima ga, kroz ovaj ili onaj nacin, to nije sporno, to je zivot... 
Ali p4icam o uzem, kaznjivom aspektu... ima li tu prevencije... ja mislim da, nazalost, nema...

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Ne j3bote, nije... to smo zakljucili, svak ga moze primit i prima ga, kroz ovaj ili onaj nacin, to nije sporno, to je zivot... 
Ali p4icam o uzem, kaznjivom aspektu... ima li tu prevencije... ja mislim da, nazalost, nema...

ima samo kad je u pitanju pedofilija i slične gadosti sa maloljetnicima i kod silovanja, human trafickinga čini mi se a i verbalnog nasilja samo to je malo teže dokazivo. ako si punoljetna you are on your own.

kakva prevencija? pa svi smo mi "grommed" od rođenja non-stop. ja sam alergičan na "grooming" ali to ima cijenu, okolina te jednostavno odbaci počevši od roditelja pa na dalje jer nemaju nikakve koristi od tebe. kad ja krenem "groomat" njih eee... onda nemože jer se odmah raspizde i krenu u ofenzivu do zadnje kapi krvi do istrage vaše ili naše ali ko im jebemater. ja obožavam biti sam pa mi to ne stvara neki problem.

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danas me čopila bol i patnja. pa sam si večeras uz pivo i zvijezde meditirao koja je razlika između boli i patnje ako ima ikakve razlike. pitam Google ne zna. prvi puta da Google ne zna.

[Tomica]

danas me čopila bol i patnja. pa sam si večeras uz pivo i zvijezde meditirao koja je razlika između boli i patnje ako ima ikakve razlike. pitam Google ne zna. prvi puta da Google ne zna.

Boli su psihicka patnja.

Bolovi su fizicka patnja...

Dakle, patnja moze biti i samo mentalna/dusevna (tipa, ljubavne boli, patnja zbog ljubavi), ali i fizicke naravi (organski uzrok/bolest/povreda)...

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Ugh! Time to raise the paranoia level- Seeding of outbreaks of COVID-19 by contaminated fresh and frozen food

Seeding of outbreaks of COVID-19 by contaminated fresh and frozen food

https://www.biorxiv.org/content/10.1101/2020.08.17.255166v1

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here we go again. I was duped by a covert aggressive narcissists!!! pa dokle više bogamujeben da mu jeben???

ova ekipa ljudskih nakaza ubila je više ljudi nego svi virusi i nesreće ovoga svijeta. i dalje to rade i nitko o tome ne priča možda koji usamljeni marooned mudrac ili proročica.

repetitio est mamica studiorum


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We’ve all dealt with it. The subtle manipulations. Always angling to get what they want, but still looking like a little angel. Making you feel like you’re the problem or like you’re crazy — but you can never quite prove it…
Then you read something about how to deal with passive-aggressiveness but it doesn’t seem to help. What’s the deal?
You cannot solve a problem if you didn’t properly diagnose the problem. And we’ve all been misdiagnosing passive-aggressiveness for a long time…
The DSM-IV describes passive-aggression as a “pervasive pattern of negativistic attitudes and passive resistance to demands for adequate performance in social and occupational situations.”
So true passive-aggression usually takes the form of non-compliance. Does that sound like “manipulation” to you? Does that sound like endless deliberate head games? Nope. And that’s because what we usually call “passive-aggressive” isn’t passive-aggressive at all…
The proper term is “covert aggression.”

Covert and passive-aggression are both indirect ways to aggress but they’re most definitely not the same thing. Passive-aggression is, as the term implies, aggressing though passivity. Examples of passive-aggression are playing the game of emotional “get-back” with someone by resisting cooperation with them, giving them the “silent treatment,” pouting or whining, not so accidentally “forgetting” something they wanted you to do because you’re angry and didn’t really feel like obliging them, etc. In contrast, covert aggression is very active, albeit veiled, aggression. When someone is being covertly aggressive, they’re using calculating, underhanded means to get what they want or manipulate the response of others while keeping their aggressive intentions under cover.

Simply put: covert aggressives want to be bad while looking good.
To all aggressives, life is a competition — and they despise losing. But the covert aggressive is in some ways the most dangerous type because they don’t look aggressive. The teddy bear has claws.

So what are their tricks — and what can you do to stop them?

Time to get overt about the covert. So how do we know when someone is a covert aggressive? And how can we identify their manipulations so we don’t fall prey to them?

By reviewing their playbook, of course…

Covert Aggressive Tactics 101


This Is How To Deal With Passive Aggressive People

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We’ve all dealt with it. The subtle manipulations. Always angling to get what they want, but still looking like a little angel. Making you feel like you’re the problem or like you’re crazy — but you can never quite prove it…
Then you read something about how to deal with passive-aggressiveness but it doesn’t seem to help. What’s the deal?
You cannot solve a problem if you didn’t properly diagnose the problem. And we’ve all been misdiagnosing passive-aggressiveness for a long time…
The DSM-IV describes passive-aggression as a “pervasive pattern of negativistic attitudes and passive resistance to demands for adequate performance in social and occupational situations.”
So true passive-aggression usually takes the form of non-compliance. Does that sound like “manipulation” to you? Does that sound like endless deliberate head games? Nope. And that’s because what we usually call “passive-aggressive” isn’t passive-aggressive at all…
The proper term is “covert aggression.”
From In Sheep’s Clothing: Understanding and Dealing with Manipulative People:
Covert and passive-aggression are both indirect ways to aggress but they’re most definitely not the same thing. Passive-aggression is, as the term implies, aggressing though passivity. Examples of passive-aggression are playing the game of emotional “get-back” with someone by resisting cooperation with them, giving them the “silent treatment,” pouting or whining, not so accidentally “forgetting” something they wanted you to do because you’re angry and didn’t really feel like obliging them, etc. In contrast, covert aggression is very active, albeit veiled, aggression. When someone is being covertly aggressive, they’re using calculating, underhanded means to get what they want or manipulate the response of others while keeping their aggressive intentions under cover.

Simply put: covert aggressives want to be bad while looking good.
To all aggressives, life is a competition — and they despise losing. But the covert aggressive is in some ways the most dangerous type because they don’t look aggressive. The teddy bear has claws.

So what are their tricks — and what can you do to stop them?

Time to get overt about the covert. So how do we know when someone is a covert aggressive? And how can we identify their manipulations so we don’t fall prey to them?

By reviewing their playbook, of course…

Covert Aggressive Tactics 101

First, a caveat: everybody does a few of these things now and then. Just because someone lies once does not make them a pathological liar. Don’t run around diagnosing people as pure evil because they occasionally dodge blame for something. That’s just being human.

However, if you see a notable, clear pattern of manipulative behavior — a number of these used frequently and consistently — your Spidey-Sense should be tingling.

1) Feigning innocence, ignorance or confusion

Playing dumb when something awful they did is called to their attention. When someone who is very sharp suddenly acts oblivious. When someone with a great memory becomes conveniently forgetful.
George Simon explains the motive behind it thusly: “The tactic is designed to make you question your judgment and possibly your sanity.”

2) Diversion and evasion

Never giving a straight answer to a straight question. Always changing the subject when cornered.

Manipulators use distraction and diversion techniques to keep the focus off their behavior, move us off-track, and keep themselves free to promote their self-serving hidden agendas. Sometimes this can be very subtle. You may confront your manipulator on a very important issue only to find yourself minutes later wondering how you got on the topic you’re talking about then.

3) Lying

But it’s usually not black and white, straight-up lies. Those are too easy to catch. They’ll lie by omission or distortion.

One of the most subtle forms of distortion is being deliberately vague. This is a favorite tactic of manipulators. They will carefully craft their stories so that you form the impression that you’ve been given information but leave out essential details that would have otherwise made it possible for you to know the larger truth.

4) Charm and Anger

Why respond to an accusation when you can just distract your way out of it with flattery and humor? If cornered, they may turn to anger. Remember: anger is an involuntary emotional response. If you see it suddenly switch on or off without good reason (especially after a previous tactic failed), that’s not a sincere feeling — it’s a gambit. They’re trying to intimidate and put you on the defensive.

5) Playing the victim

Covert aggressives don’t mind seeing people suffer. But you hate seeing people suffer — and they know it. So they’ll make themselves out to be the one in distress so your compassion becomes their ally.

This tactic involves portraying oneself as a victim of circumstance or someone else’s behavior in order to gain sympathy, evoke compassion and thereby get something from another. One thing that covert-aggressive personalities count on is the fact that less calloused and hostile personalities usually can’t stand to see anyone suffering. Therefore, the tactic is simple. Convince your victim you’re suffering in some way, and they’ll try to relieve your distress.

They’ll often combine this with vilifying the actual victim for a one-two punch.

6) Rationalization and Minimization

You want to believe they’re a decent person. That means you are looking for a way to excuse their behavior. And they’re more than happy to give you one. They use your natural tendency toward confirmation bias against you.

A rationalization is the excuse an aggressor makes for engaging in what they know is an inappropriate or harmful behavior. It can be an effective tactic, especially when the explanation or justification the aggressor offers makes just enough sense that any reasonably conscientious person is likely to fall for it.

Minimization is insisting it’s “not that big a deal” or “you’re blowing this out of proportion.” To detect minimization, listen for two words: “just” and “only.”

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7) Guilt-tripping and Shaming

These two are their favorites. Covert aggressives don’t feel bad — but they know you do. And if they send you on a guilt trip, you’ll ease up with the accusations.

Manipulators are skilled at using what they know to be the greater conscientiousness of their victims as a means of keeping them in a self-doubting, anxious, and submissive position… All a manipulator has to do is suggest to the conscientious person that they don’t care enough, are too selfish, etc., and that person immediately starts to feel bad.

And shaming is putting someone down to make them feel inadequate or unworthy so the aggressive can maintain dominance. The more you feel bad about yourself, the more likely you are to defer to them.

So…

Do you see a consistent pattern of these tactics being used by that special someone? (They will often shamelessly cycle from one to the next, waiting to see what gets a reaction before doubling down.)
If so, the best and most effective response is simple but not always easy: walk away. “No contact.” It’s quite hard for someone to manipulate you if you never deal with them again.

Yeah, yeah — “no contact” isn’t always a realistic option. Maybe you’re married to them and have kids. They work with you and you can’t quit immediately. I get it. So we have to do this the hard way…

Suit up. We’re going in:

First, Address The Big Picture

Let go of the misconception that you playing nice is going to get them to play nice. They’re not like you. If they were, you wouldn’t have been nodding your head while reading the above. Treating a Bengal tiger like a kitty cat is a good way to get mauled.
Know your vulnerabilities. They already do. If you’re prone to being guilted, if you’re emotionally needy, too willing to see their side of things, whatever — you need to be aware of that and compensate for it.
And most of all, you need to be focused on the one thing that really needs to change here. Think it’s them? Wrong. What really needs to change here is the only thing you have power over: your behavior toward them.

I know: you feel screwed. You want to make them pay. Or to just say they’re sorry. Good luck with that. You can’t make them do anything. But you can control what you do… So what should you do?

Prepare

First thing you need is some boundaries. What will you no longer tolerate? And what will you do if they violate those boundaries? Go no further until you have concrete answers to those two questions.
Next, know what you want from them — and be prepared for consequences. If an aggressive feels like they’re losing, they’ll do anything to regain dominance. You need to anticipate their moves and know what to expect to protect yourself.
Finally, have a support system in place. You’ll need someone to provide you with a reality check and some emotional support when your CA realizes you’re on to them and starts upping the head games.

Okay, prep work is done. What do you do next time you’re face-to-face and they start using their black magic?

Be On The Lookout For Tactics

I wouldn’t want to say you should memorize that above list of tactics… but, um, you should memorize that above list of tactics. It’s hard to properly counter something if you don’t know it’s happening.

Listen for not necessarily to what your manipulator says. Be constantly on the lookout for tactics. Label the tactics immediately when you detect them. Regardless of the kinds of tactics a manipulator is using, remember this fundamental rule: Don’t be swayed by the tactics themselves. Reinforce the idea in your mind that the manipulator is merely fighting for something. Then, respond solely on the basis of what you legitimately want or need. Don’t react instinctively and defensively to what they’re doing.

You’re not falling into their traps. Good. But how do you confront them about their latest infraction?

Accept No Excuses

If you are willing to accept an excuse, they’ll just start throwing excuses at you – deftly – until one sticks. Don’t be swayed by rationalizations. Plain and simple: judge actions, not intentions.

Getting caught up in what might be going on in an aggressor’s mind is a good way to get sidetracked from the really pertinent issue. Judge the behavior itself. If what a person does is harmful in some way, pay attention to and deal with that issue. The importance of this principle can’t be overstated. Remember, the tactics covert-aggressives use are effective tools of impression-management. They keep you second-guessing yourself about the true nature of the person you’re dealing with. So, if you base your opinions on your assumptions about intentions or are swayed by the various tactics, you’re going to be deceived about the character of the person with whom you’re dealing. Behavior patterns alone provide the information you need to make sound judgments about character. And past behavior is the single most reliable predictor of future behavior.

You need to keep the focus of the conversation on them. And avoid using sarcasm, hostility or threats. If you’re calm and polite, it’s much harder for them to say you’re the bad guy here.

So how do you get them to do what you need — or stop doing what they do?

Make Direct Requests. Accept Only Direct Responses.

Without being rude, be as matter-of-fact and concrete as you can about what you want them to do. Do not give them the wiggle room that they love.

Be specific about what it is you dislike, expect, or want from the other person. Use phrases like: “I want you to…” or “I don’t want you to… anymore.” …it gives a manipulator little room to distort (or claim they misunderstood) what you want or expect from them.

A yes-or-no question can and should be answered with one word. If they won’t give it, they’re already laying the groundwork for their Houdini escape from the agreement.

(that's the point, eto, nisam uspio riješiti apsolutno ništa ma da je izgledalo kao da jesam.)

Once you’ve made a clear, direct request, insist on a clear, direct answer. Whenever you don’t get one, ask again. Don’t do this in a hostile or threatening way, but respectfully assert the issue you raised is important and deserves to be forthrightly addressed… Most direct, appropriate questions can be answered with a simple direct answer. If you get more than that, less than that, or something completely foreign to that, you can assume, at least to some degree, someone is trying to manipulate you.

And what’s the final — and single most powerful technique — for dealing with a covert aggressive?

Focus On Win-Win

Aggressives will often play ball if you have something they want. But if they have to lose, they’ll make sure you do too. So you absolutely want to propose as many win-win solutions as possible.

Remember that an aggressive personality will do almost anything to avoid losing. So, once you’ve defined some terms and conditions by which the aggressor can have at least something they want, you’re half way home. Seeking out and proposing as many ways as possible for both of you to get something out of doing things differently opens the door to a much less conflicted relationship with both aggressive and covert-aggressive personalities.

You want an agreement that is clear and enforceable because if there’s a way to wiggle out, they’ll find it. And whatever you do, don’t make promises you can’t keep — then they’ll have a legit reason to paint you as the bad guy.
But as long as you structure the bargain effectively, win-win is the single most powerful tool in your arsenal. Why?
Because it puts the unrelenting power of their aggressive personality to work for you.

Okay, we’ve covered a lot. Let’s round it up — and learn how to avoid the worst possible scenario…

Sum Up

This is how to deal with passive aggressive (actually, covert aggressive) people:
Address the big picture: Stop thinking they’re like you. Address your vulnerabilities. Focus on what you can control — your own behavior.
Prepare for the next encounter: Establish boundaries. Know what you want. Be ready for consequences. Get support.
Be on the lookout for tactics: It’s really hard to block a roundhouse kick if you don’t know what a roundhouse kick looks like.
Accept no excuses: “I don’t care why you waterboarded Larry; my problem is that you waterboarded Larry.”
Make direct requests, accept only direct responses: Yes or no will do just fine, thanks.
Focus on win-win: It doesn’t force them to learn a foreign language like “kindness” or “altruism.” They get what they want if you get what you want. And if they won’t say what they want, then it’s definitely something you don’t want.

The worst case scenario has nothing to do with this covert aggressive person, actually. It’s all about what happens after…

Nobody likes to get burned twice, so it can seem quite reasonable to keep your guard up. All the time. To be forever vigilant and skeptical of everyone. But this is like fixing your roach problem by burning your house down.

Research shows that, over the long haul, trusting is better than not trusting. And starting off mistrusting can be a self-fulfilling prophecy. Yes, there are bad people out there you’ll have to contend with. But as Marcus Aurelius once said:

The best way to avenge yourself is to not be like that.

Dealing with bad people should always lead you to do one thing:

Appreciating the good people in your life all that much more.

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‘Culling’ the old & weak: Eugenics and social Darwinism rear their ugly heads in the Covid-19 pandemic

The coronavirus pandemic has seen some great and heroic acts of humanity, but we’ve also seen the re-emergence and mainstreaming of the morally repugnant ‘survival of the fittest’ ideology.
One thing about a health crisis, it sorts out the humane from the inhumane. Those who think all lives are equally precious from those who seem to think that some lives count more and that the ‘weak’ are a burden who have to be sacrificed so the strong can continue to dominate.

Probably the most repulsive take I’ve heard so far on Corona is the one which goes: “What are we having these lockdowns and ‘social distancing’ for? It’s only – or predominantly – the old and already ill who are dying from Covid-19 – and they didn’t have too long to live anyway.”
Writing for the Critic, UK commentator Toby Young, who has previously advocated what he called ‘progressive eugenics’, said that “spending £350bn to prolong the lives of a few hundred thousand mostly elderly people is an irresponsible use of taxpayers’ money.”

What, I wonder, does he regard as a ‘responsible use of taxpayers’ money? Invading Iraq? Bombing Libya? Bailing out the bankers? And how much monetary worth would he put on the lives of ‘a few hundred thousand mostly elderly people’? The Oscar Wilde epigram about the man who knows the price of everything and the value of nothing springs readily to mind.

Young complains that the UK’s so-called ‘lockdown’ (it isn’t actually a proper one because flights from Covid-19 hotspots are still coming in unchecked) is extending the lives of 370,000 people by an average of one-and-a-half-years. He wants the lockdown to end straight after Easter, and if this leads to a surge in Covid-19 cases and the NHS being overwhelmed, well, that’s ok because “the majority of people whose lives could have been saved only have one or two years left and those will not be good years.”

I wonder if Young has elderly parents or grandparents alive, and if so, what they think of his views?

Young’s piece quite rightly was roundly attacked on social media, but he’s not the only one who’s been pushing this odious, anti-human line. On March 3, in the Daily Telegraph, financial writer Jeremy Warner opined: “Not to put too fine a point on it, from an entirely disinterested economic perspective, COVID-19 might even prove mildly beneficial in the long-term by disproportionately culling elderly dependants.”

Got that? As one tweeter put it: “We’ve gone from ‘only the vulnerable will die’ to ‘it’s good that the vulnerable will die.” How absolutely sickening.

Even Establishment-licensed, Inside the Tent over-70s have joined in on the psy-ops to make the elderly feel guilty for wanting to stay alive in the Age of Corona. “What we have to worry about is being a dead-weight on the NHS,” the author and former newspaper editor Max Hastings said on the radio. “We must try and promote getting economic activity going again. If we the elders, must pay an additional price for this then so be it.”

In similar ‘the elderly should be sacrificed’ vein, Sir David King, the Blair/Brown governments’ former chief scientific adviser (and former senior scientific adviser to UBS Bank), urged over-90s to stay away from hospitals to avoid ‘overburdening’ the NHS.

Leaving aside the shocking callousness of such a statement, did it not occur to King that the 90-year-olds whose lives he so loftily dismisses have probably paid between them millions – if not billions – in their lifetime, through taxes and National Insurance contributions, to the NHS?
We’re being encouraged to think that healthcare needs to be ‘rationed’ in the Age of Corona, but there’s more than enough money in Britain to make sure that every patient is treated equally, regardless of their age. The real scandal is not ‘90-year-olds clogging up hospitals’ but the fact that in November 2019, NHS beds were at a record low in England. The Guardian reported that 17,230 beds had been cut from the 144,455 that existed in April-June 2010, just before the austerity-imposing Conservative/Lib Dem coalition came to power.

We’ve seen bed cuts at a time when we should have seen bed increases. But instead of holding the politicians to account for underfunding the health service, and their failure to plan or prepare in any way for a pandemic, certain commentators want us to blame the most vulnerable for being a ‘burden’.

It’s not just the very old who the new social Darwinists (now billed euphemistically as ‘contrarians’ or ‘free thinkers’) are happy to throw under the bus. It’s also those who have ‘underlying health conditions’. Coronavirus is taking a high percentage of these people, we’re told, so what’s the big fuss? They were ‘sick’ anyway! But people with ‘underlying health conditions’ can live meaningful, quality lives for a long time. I personally know of one person who was told in 1944 that he had only six months to live because of an acute heart problem. He’s still alive in 2020.

The idea that in a pandemic, the lives of those ‘with underlying health conditions’ are dispensable or worth less than those without ‘underlying health conditions’ is – again – totally repugnant to anyone in possession of a moral compass.

Most people are rightly appalled by the utterly heartless eugenicist and social Darwinistic ideology and thought they’d seen the end of it several decades ago. But it’s back and ‘mainstreamed’ – and in the long run it arguably poses as big a threat to society as the wretched coronavirus itself.

https://www.rt.com/op-ed/484696-eugenics-social-darwinism-coronavirus/

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Slavoj Zizek: Biggest threat Covid-19 epidemic poses is not our regression to survivalist violence, but BARBARISM with human face

The impossible has happened and the world we knew has stopped turning around. But what world order will emerge after the coronavirus pandemic is over – socialism for the rich, disaster capitalism or something completely new?
These days I sometimes catch myself wishing to get the virus – in this way, at least the debilitating uncertainty would be over. A clear sign of how my anxiety is growing is how I relate to sleep. Until around a week ago I was eagerly awaiting the evening: finally, I can escape into sleep and forget about the fears of my daily life. Now it’s almost the opposite: I am afraid to fall asleep since nightmares haunt me in my dreams and make me awaken in panic – nightmares about the reality that awaits me.

What reality? Alenka Zupancic formulated it perfectly, and let me resume her line of thought. These days we often hear that radical social changes are needed if we really want to cope with the consequences of the ongoing epidemic (I myself am among those spreading this mantra). But radical changes are already taking place.

The coronavirus epidemic confronts us with something we considered impossible. We couldn’t imagine something like this to really happen in our daily lives – the world we knew has stopped spinning around, whole countries are in lockdown, many of us are confined to one’s apartment (but what about those who cannot afford even this minimal safety precaution?) facing an uncertain future in which even if most of us survive an economic mega-crisis lies ahead…

What this means is that our reaction should also be to do the impossible – what appears impossible within the coordinates of the existing world order.

The impossible has happened, our world has stopped, and now we have to do the impossible to avoid the worst. But what is that ‘impossible’?

I don’t think the biggest threat is a regression to open barbarism, to brutal survivalist violence with public disorders, panic lynching, etc. (although, with the possible collapse of health and some other public services, this is also quite possible.) More than open barbarism I fear barbarism with a human face – ruthless survivalist measures enforced with regret and even sympathy, but legitimized by expert opinions.

Survival of the fittest
A careful observer easily noticed the change in tone in how those in power address us: they are not just trying to project calm and confidence, they also regularly utter dire predictions – the pandemic is likely to take about two years to run its course and the virus will eventually infect 60-70 percent of the global population, with millions dead.

In short, their true message is that we’ll have to curtail the basic premise of our social ethics: the care for the old and weak. In Italy, for instance, it’s already been proposed that if the virus crisis gets worse, patients over 80 or those with other heavy diseases will be simply left to die.

One should note how accepting this logic of the “survival of the fittest” violates even the basic principle of military ethics which tells us that, after the battle, one should first take care of the heavily wounded even if the chance of saving them is minimal. (However, upon a closer look, this shouldn’t surprise us: hospitals are already doing the same thing with cancer patients).

To avoid a misunderstanding, I am an utter realist here – one should plan even medicaments to enable a painless death of the terminally ill, to spare them the unnecessary suffering. But our first priority should be nonetheless not to economize but to help unconditionally, irrespective of costs, those who need help, to enable their survival.

So I respectfully disagree with Italian philosopher Giorgio Agamben who sees in the ongoing crisis a sign that “our society no longer believes in anything but bare life. It is obvious that Italians are disposed to sacrifice practically everything — the normal conditions of life, social relationships, work, even friendships, affections, and religious and political convictions — to the danger of getting sick. Bare life — and the danger of losing it — is not something that unites people, but blinds and separates them.”

Things are much more ambiguous: it DOES also unite people – to maintain a corporeal distance is to show respect to others since I also may be a virus bearer. My sons avoid me now because they are afraid they will contaminate me (what is to them a passing illness can be deadly for me).

...Triple crisis: medical, economic, mental
We are caught in a triple crisis: medical (the epidemic itself), economic (which will hit hard whatever the outcome of the epidemic), plus (not to underestimate) mental health – the basic coordinates of the lives of millions and millions are disintegrating, and the change will affect everything, from flying to holidays to everyday bodily contacts. We have to learn to think outside the coordinates of the stock market and profit and simply find another way to produce and allocate the necessary resources. Say, when the authorities learn that a company is keeping millions of masks, waiting for the right moment to sell them, there should be no negotiations with the company – masks should be simply requisitioned.

The media reported that Trump offered $1 billion to Tübingen-based biopharmaceutical company CureVac to secure the vaccine “only for the United States.” The German Health Minister Jens Spahn said a takeover of CureVac by the Trump administration was “off the table”: CureVac would only develop a vaccine “for the whole world, not for individual countries.” Here we have an exemplary case of the struggle between barbarism and civilization. But the same Trump had to invoke the Defense Production Act that would allow the government to ensure that the private sector can ramp up production of emergency medical supplies.

Earlier this week, Trump announced the proposal to take over the private sector. He said he would invoke a federal provision allowing the government to marshal the private sector in response to the pandemic. He added he would sign an act giving himself the authority to direct domestic industrial production “in case we need it.”

When I used the word “communism” a couple of weeks ago, I was mocked, but now “Trump announces proposals to take over the private sector” – can one imagine such a title even a week ago?

And this is just the beginning – many more measures like this should follow, plus local self-organization of communities will be necessary if the state-run health system is under too much stress. It is not enough just to isolate and survive – for some of us to do this, basic public services have to function: electricity, food and medicaments supply… (We’ll soon need a list of those who recovered and are at least for some time immune, so that they can be mobilized for the urgent public work).

https://www.rt.com/op-ed/483528-coronavirus-world-capitalism-barbarism/

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Why Was SARS-CoV-2 And Also SARS-CoV-3 Viruses Mentioned In Published Study In 2008 That Was Catalogued By U.S. NIH?

First, a study dated 2008 makes mention of SARS-CoV-2 and even of a SARS-CoV-3 and this study though was conducted by Chinese researchers in Beijing was catalogued by the U.S. NIH which has a very strict criteria of cataloguing studies that are only credible and things that staff at NIH knows. The study was published in peer-reviewed journal of the American Society of Microbiology.

Reading the study in detail, it seems the SARS-CoV-2 and a SARS-CoV-3 strain was already in existence since 2008!

We could not reach the Chinese researchers who mysteriously disappeared after migrating to America and we cannot get hold of anyone who reviewed the study and the NIH has declined comment.

RNase-Resistant Virus-Like Particles Containing Long Chimeric RNA Sequences Produced by Two-Plasmid Coexpression System

Received 20 November 2007/Returned for modification 28 December 2007/Accepted 16 February 2008
RNase-resistant, noninfectious virus-like particles containing exogenous RNA sequences (armored RNA) are
good candidates as RNA controls and standards in RNA virus detection. However, the length of RNA packaged
in the virus-like particles with high efficiency is usually less than 500 bases. In this study, we describe a method
for producing armored L-RNA. Armored L-RNA is a complex of MS2 bacteriophage coat protein and RNA
produced in Escherichia coli by the induction of a two-plasmid coexpression system in which the coat protein
and maturase are expressed from one plasmid and the target RNA sequence with modified MS2 stem-loop (pac
site) is transcribed from another plasmid. A 3V armored L-RNA of 2,248 bases containing six gene fragments—
hepatitis C virus, severe acute respiratory syndrome coronavirus (SARS-CoV1, SARS-CoV2, and SARS-CoV3),
avian influenza virus matrix gene (M300), and H5N1 avian influenza virus (HA300)—was successfully expressed
by the two-plasmid coexpression system and was demonstrated to have all of the characteristics of
armored RNA. We evaluated the 3V armored L-RNA as a calibrator for multiple virus assays. We used the
WHO International Standard for HCV RNA (NIBSC 96/790) to calibrate the chimeric armored L-RNA, which
was diluted by 10-fold serial dilutions to obtain samples containing 106 to 102 copies. In conclusion, the
approach we used for armored L-RNA preparation is practical and could reduce the labor and cost of quality
control in multiplex RNA virus assays. Furthermore, we can assign the chimeric armored RNA with an
international unit for quantitative detection.

https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC2395109/

https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC2395109/pdf/2248-07.pdf

https://jcm.asm.org/content/46/5/1734

In the last few days as we were perusing more studies and emerging data, some things really are not adding up and perhaps some other media, researchers or experts can help us with a few answers please.

Line eight of the abstract mentions of these respiratory viruses along with further mentions in the study.

Next we wrote today a study by IBM, a reputable company that says in their study that they found co-infections with more than one strain was a common occurrence of late. On further checking we found out that the WHO, NIH and CCDC is aware of this since April! So why was this not made public earlier? It changes the course of the treating COVID-19, research, drug and vaccine research.

On almost the same topic, we have mentioned the growing emergence and prevalence of various antibody resistant strains but WHO, CDC and NIH has not made any comments of these growing occurrences.

Also its emerging that the nasal swab PCR test are not reliable as it is now found that the virus can actually remain in parts of the body ie the intestines etc and cannot be detected by the current testing methods used. This has implications for so called millions of recovered patients.

We have covered how the SRS-CoV-2 virus is able to prime itself for long term stay in the human host and we have covered on how the virus is mutilating both bone marrow cells and CD 4 cells. Why is no one talking about this or at least proving us wrong ?

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